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Facebook... Why does it have to be so evil?

I love Facebook. I can share pictures of my daughter with my aunts that live in Tennessee and my friend that lives in California and all the other people in my life, all at once. I can keep track of how my friends and family are doing, at midnight, if that's the first free moment I have had all day. Yes, there are many benefits to Facebook, but then there is the evil lurking behind that nice exterior.

The DRAMA.

Okay, so now that Facebook is so big, basically everyone you know can see everything you post. And then anyone who comments, it can be seen by everyone else you know. And all of your comments on other peoples' posts can be seen by everyone THEY know. And on top of all that, Facebook now has all these neat little features to increase the chance that everyone will see everything you say, ANYWHERE.

For example, the other day, I commented on my husband's brother's girlfriend's (for simplicity's sake, I refer to her as my sister-in-law) status. She said that she missed her boyfriend / my brother-in-law while he was at work. I said, I feel the same way. Meaning, I miss my husband while he's at work. They both work far away from us. So, my mother-in-law misunderstands and comments that she doesn't appreciate me participating in this drama. I reply that I commented that on Thursday, before there was any drama, and I didn't say anything dramatic. I miss my husband while he's at work, that is no secret, and I don't see why I shouldn't say it.

So yesterday, I had to delete a whole conversation off of my wall where my husband tells me his phone is dead so if I have called, that's why he couldn't answer. My sister-in-law has told him I was trying to reach him, yes, and I was mad, etc. etc. I won't go into the whole, long story. Anyway, my husband's aunt posts that this stuff should be kept to private messages. And there were a few more comments, but they were deleted immediately, because I had no desire to read them.

My feelings are hurt. I want to cry. I don't want this drama on my page. And I feel like my mother-in-law and aunt-in-law, I guess you would call her, are now mad at me. I am the person who has always tried my hardest to create a good relationship with my in laws since we first met. And here, I am just trying to remain friends with my sister-in-law AND the rest of my in laws, but apparently I can't do that. Apparently I must choose.  All because of some stupid Facebook drama!

I don't start this drama. I have never said anything malicious against anyone on Facebook. I know my comments are free for all to see, and I haven't posted anything that I thought would bother anyone. But no matter what I do, I am sucked into this drama. I am the least dramatic person in the world. The very thought of any sort of confrontation or people not liking me makes me super upset. My heart races, I get depressed, I want to hide away forever. I seriously consider moving far, far away so where no one knows us. I've made staying close to my family and my husband's family a priority because I want Kaylee to grow up knowing her family, and I know everyone wants to see her grow up. But at this point, it's getting old. I don't want to delete my Facebook, because I will not be able to keep in touch with my friends and family as well.

I'm just very disappointed right now. I just found out I am pregnant so I should be thrilled. But this stupid Facebook drama is ruining it for me. I thought I could keep my profile free of the evil that is drama, but I have failed.

Comments

Sarah Kay said…
Aw I hate facebook drama! But don't let anything ruin your happiness, especially since your pregnant!! CONGRATS HUN!!!!

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Hope your having a great weekend!

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Katya kate said…
I hear you. I hate drama on Facebook too. I have one suggestion. If you don't want your in-laws and other reactive dramatic people to see your posts and comments, then customize it, make it private that only your trusted friends can see. I always make my wall private too and only open to people I love to get reconnected and updated with. Good luck! I'm a new follower from vB blog hop :)
That's why I don't do Facebook. I use it to keep track of who is where, but I usually use private messages to contact them. Congratulations on your pregnancy!

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