Kay's First Day of School
The first day went well. Apparently she was well-behaved, which was a huge relief. According to her, she loved it, but did have some issues dealing with certain situations that tend to upset her. She didn't deal with them perfectly, but she didn't get too upset either, so I'm not complaining. For example, she told me that another girl told her some playground rules, and Kaylee didn't think she was telling the truth, and that made her feel very angry. She told the girl that she didn't want her to tell her the rules anymore or she would have to yell at her, or something to that effect, lol. We talked about nicer ways to deal with similar situations next time. Hey, at least she didn't bite her!
In general, her behavior has really been great lately. No major tantrums. Still having nice terrors, but sleeping better aside from that. I feel bad because she really wants to behave. She just experiences things at a very intense level, it seems. She's learning ways to calm down and deal with things, though. We do a lot of roleplaying and I think that's paying off. I ask her, "So, what would you do if this happened?" and she used to say things like, "I'd just scream," or something, but now she's saying things like, "I'd go somewhere else." So that's good, hopefully it will continue to improve. I think as long as we keep trying to be understanding, and when we do have to discipline her do so gently and respectfully, she'll do great. She feels very attacked and affronted when adults (or anyone) are not polite to her, so being too strict or losing your temper only backfires. We'd literally have to beat her black and blue to "force" her to respect us, and even then I really think it would only make her more aggressive and/or withdrawn, so I don't believe getting more strict is the way to go with her.
She is just such a polite and well-meaning kid in general. I hate that I talk about her challenging aspects all the time. I never want to sound like I'm complaining about her or trying to fix her. I love her just the way she is!! She makes me smile all the time. Like the other day, we were getting ready to go somewhere and she's like, "I got dressed and put my dirty clothes in the laundry basket. And I laid Brynna's clothes on the couch for you. And I packed the diaper bag with all the things we will need!" She's such a little helper. She cleans her room up of her own accord now, and always tries to follow the house rules. She's so smart and inquisitive. The other day she asks me, "Who is Dr. Subramanian's doctor?" She wanted to know who her doctor's doctor was, lol! She's also the most amazing big sister ever, always trying to help entertain and take care of Brynna. Ok, I'm starting to go on and on now, but you get the drift. I have a pretty awesome kid! :)